The First Mark of a Disciple: Loving God (Repentance)
Sexual Integrity Test
Self-ExaminationThis test is not about outward morality alone, but inner alignment.
Before you begin
Sexual sin is rarely sudden; it is usually the result of unconfessed agreements, unmanaged desires, and tolerated proximity.
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.”Matthew 5:8 (CSB)
How to use this
- Answer prayerfully. Do not rush.
- Honesty before God matters more than finishing the list.
- Choose “Bring to God” for anything the Holy Spirit is putting His finger on.
- This is self-examination, not public confession.
- If trauma, abuse, or compulsive behaviour surfaces, seek appropriate pastoral and professional support.
- Conviction leads to freedom; shame leads to hiding.
Agreement of the Heart
Sexual sin always begins before it is acted upon.
Answer honestly.
1. Do I allow sexual thoughts to linger when I could dismiss them?
2. Have I normalised fantasies I know I would never act on before God?
3. Do I mentally revisit past sinful sexual experiences for pleasure?
4. Do I excuse certain desires as “human nature” rather than bringing them under Christ’s lordship?
5. Do I secretly resent God’s boundaries on sexuality?
6. Do I believe sexual fulfilment is necessary for my happiness?
7. Do I believe obedience in this area costs more than it gives?
Thought Life & Imagination
Jesus addressed this directly (Matthew 5:27–28).
8. Do I entertain sexual imagination involving someone who is not my spouse?
9. Do I mentally undress people or replay encounters in my mind?
10. Do I use imagination to escape loneliness, stress, or frustration?
11. Do I justify private thought-sin because “no one is harmed”?
12. Do I resist thought-sin immediately, or negotiate with it?
Thought tolerated becomes appetite. Appetite unchecked becomes action.
Visual & Media Exposure
13. Do I intentionally watch or follow content that stirs sexual desire?
14. Do I linger longer than necessary on suggestive images or videos?
15. Do I rationalise content by calling it “art,” “humour,” or “culture”?
16. Do I consume media I would not be comfortable watching with Jesus present?
17. Have I normalised pornography, erotic content, or suggestive material in any form?
What you repeatedly allow before your eyes eventually shapes your desires.
Relationships & Emotional Proximity
Many fall morally long before they fall physically.
18. Is there anyone with whom I share emotional intimacy that should belong to my spouse (or future spouse)?
19. Do I maintain private communication I would hide from my spouse or leaders?
20. Do I enjoy attention, admiration, or flirtation I know is inappropriate?
21. Do I compare my spouse (or future spouse) with someone else?
22. Do I justify closeness by calling it “innocent,” “helpful,” or “ministry”?
Emotional secrecy is often the doorway to sexual compromise.
Boundaries & Wisdom
23. Do I regularly place myself in situations that require “strong self-control”?
24. Do I rely on willpower rather than distance and boundaries?
25. Have I removed access points that previously led me into sin?
26. Do I believe I am “strong enough now” to revisit old environments?
27. Do I build boundaries based on my strongest intentions or my weakest moments?
Wisdom does not test temptation; it avoids it.
Confession & Honesty
28. Is there any sexual sin I have confessed vaguely but never fully renounced?
29. Have I claimed freedom while still secretly feeding the sin?
30. Do I downplay frequency, intensity, or seriousness in confession?
31. Do I confess only when exposed or pressured?
32. Do I confuse forgiveness with permission to repeat the sin?
Confession that avoids truth delays freedom.
Fruit & Direction
Look at the trajectory, not perfection.
33. Am I more honest now than I was a year ago?
34. Are my boundaries increasing or weakening?
35. Is secrecy decreasing or increasing?
36. Do I recover quickly by repentance, or linger in guilt and cycles?
37. Is my hunger for God growing alongside my obedience?
Growth is directional before it is complete.
Final Heart Check
38. If everything in my sexual life were exposed before God today, would I be at peace?
39. Is there anything I would ask God not to look at?
Before God
Your summary will show here as you go.
Final truth
Do not skip.
- Sexual purity is not repression; it is alignment.
- Freedom is not the absence of desire, but the right ordering of desire.
- Grace forgives; obedience preserves freedom.
“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.”Galatians 5:1
Closing prayer
Lord Jesus,You are holy, and You are good.
I bring my desires, thoughts, habits, and history into Your light.
I renounce every agreement with sexual sin, known and hidden.
Cleanse my heart, renew my mind, and strengthen my obedience.
I choose freedom over secrecy and truth over compromise.
Amen.
Remember
Conviction leads to freedom; shame leads to hiding.Growth is directional before it is complete.
Finish
Download a copy for yourself and keep it somewhere private. If you choose to talk it through, share it with your disciple-maker or a trusted leader.
